My mother's passing
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My mother's passing
Some of you already know, but thought the rest of you deserve to know about a major event in my life. My mother, Maria, passed away Nov 29th (2011), just about a month after she had hip replacement surgery. The jury is still out on all the who's and why's, but it's just not that important to me now.
It seems I spent a lot of time on relatively unimportant things while she was around, and now I regret not taking the time to listen to things she was trying to tell me. Now I find myself at a loss...I didn't pick up on a lot of the traditions that I thought I had all the time in the world to learn, and pass on to my boy. I took for granted that he would have his grandmother (who loved the her grandson like nobody else) around for eternity, like I have (she is still alive and well at 93!)
Anyhow, it's late and I'm rambling, but I just wanted to express how thankful I am for the family I have left, and to have this small but close community of friends to lean on at times like these. I hope you will spend some extra time to be with and listen to your loved ones this holiday season.
It seems I spent a lot of time on relatively unimportant things while she was around, and now I regret not taking the time to listen to things she was trying to tell me. Now I find myself at a loss...I didn't pick up on a lot of the traditions that I thought I had all the time in the world to learn, and pass on to my boy. I took for granted that he would have his grandmother (who loved the her grandson like nobody else) around for eternity, like I have (she is still alive and well at 93!)
Anyhow, it's late and I'm rambling, but I just wanted to express how thankful I am for the family I have left, and to have this small but close community of friends to lean on at times like these. I hope you will spend some extra time to be with and listen to your loved ones this holiday season.
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I feel your pain my friend. My mother passed on July 21st 2001. I was only 25 years old. My wife was pregnant with my daughter.
The pain never goes away but time does help you adjust to the situation.
Raising my daughter without my mother being around has always been hard for me to cope with.
But we got to keep moving forward, teach our children all the favorite things our parents tought us. Let them relive our good memories. It's kinda strange but I see a lot of my mother when I look at my daughter. Looks and attitude LOL. I cherish every minute I can with my children. We never know when the good Lord is going to take us home. I recently lost my brother in law a couple of weeks ago. It seems that every holiday my family gets smaller and smaller. Just remeber, your mother is now in a better place, she no longer feels any pain. You may have lost your mother, but heaven got a new angel to watch over your children.
The pain never goes away but time does help you adjust to the situation.
Raising my daughter without my mother being around has always been hard for me to cope with.
But we got to keep moving forward, teach our children all the favorite things our parents tought us. Let them relive our good memories. It's kinda strange but I see a lot of my mother when I look at my daughter. Looks and attitude LOL. I cherish every minute I can with my children. We never know when the good Lord is going to take us home. I recently lost my brother in law a couple of weeks ago. It seems that every holiday my family gets smaller and smaller. Just remeber, your mother is now in a better place, she no longer feels any pain. You may have lost your mother, but heaven got a new angel to watch over your children.
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I am saddened by your loss Matt. Like CM said, I believe there is an Angel watching over you and yours.
Last year, I lost my father when he went in for another amputation surgery. My father had a stroke while in surgery and sadly passed away a few days afterwards. With all of the happy memories that I have, there hasn't been a single day since then that I haven't thought of him and I know there hasn't been a single day since then that he hasn't thought of me as he watches over me.
I too am thankful for everyone here. And I like to think that now more than ever how grateful I am for my family (even the one brother I would have sworn off when I was growing up!). Once again Matt, I am sorry for your loss.
Last year, I lost my father when he went in for another amputation surgery. My father had a stroke while in surgery and sadly passed away a few days afterwards. With all of the happy memories that I have, there hasn't been a single day since then that I haven't thought of him and I know there hasn't been a single day since then that he hasn't thought of me as he watches over me.
I too am thankful for everyone here. And I like to think that now more than ever how grateful I am for my family (even the one brother I would have sworn off when I was growing up!). Once again Matt, I am sorry for your loss.
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I'm very sorry for your lost. My wife lost her Mom just a year after her Dad (dad-2006, Mom-2008) I always say to friends who lost a loved one to remember the great times you had with them. She'll be forever in your heart and hopefully will help you and your family get through this painful time. Once again I'm very sorry for your lost. Bless you and your family.
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Matt it still saddens me when I think of your loss old friend. As Galvatron said, time will help easethe hurt. We're all guilty of taking family and loved ones for granted. I totaly agree with what you said, lets altake a bit more time to spend with the ones we care about. Thinking of you and your family Matt. God bless sir.
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